I am going to take a break from the AIDS and HIV prevention in today’s blog, because I am much more than just an HIV + man. I often found myself frustrated with the gay community’s amazing ability to weaken itself with subdivision, as if being white, gay, and HIV+ were not enough to separate me from the whole of humanity, I am also expected to be identify as a “long-term survivor,” “over-forty,” “hairy,” “bearish,” and now expected much more than I am comfortable with, a “Daddy.” And make no mistake I recognize all to well the safety and comforts that are found in the subdividing “sameness”. They are powerful tools in making a community and creating empowerment for in individual. But there is an inherent dichotomy in that as well.
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